I dislike injustice, manipulations and misrepresentation. Yet people such as some sales people, sisters and sinister foes battle to manipulate us.
Here are 5 ways to determine whether someone is a manipulative person. Watch out for these kind of people.
1. Manipulators Create Doubt
A smoking gun can convince juries of guilt. I wonder why he does not invite me? I’ve heard that he is an axe murderer?
These statements create lingering suspicions. People begin to have doubts and misgivings about the person so charged.
Sometimes, the more wild and damaging the charge, the more easily it is believed. “In the size of the lie there is a certain factor of credibility since the broad mass of people will be more easily corrupted.” So said Hitler in his book Mein Kampf.
2. Manipulators Character Assassinate
They say negative things about others behind their backs. Or they talk or send e-mails about you or lobby others behind your back. If they do this to others, they will do it to you.
3. Manipulators Are Self-Promoters
Watch out, if they have something special you admire. This is called the HALO effect. Just because someone makes sure you know they are a great athlete or singer or very religious (their HALO), does not mean that they are good, fair and trustworthy people.
4. Manipulators Mix in “A Grain of Truth”
There is a 70% chance of rain tomorrow. Some people don’t like him. There is a dash of truth in these phrases. You would have difficulty disputing or disbelieving them.
Anyone can play up the negative in anything. Yet often there are many more positives than negatives. Manipulators don’t want you to know about these.
5. Manipulators Fuel Your Emotions
When fluttering hearts pound hard, brains and critical thinking do not function well. Passions conquer clear thinking and objective decision-making.
Perhaps you love the person telling you something. You cherish your relationship with them.
But don’t give in to their subtle character assassination, innuendo or opinions. Seek a substantial number of relevant facts, not opinions or hearsay, before you allow yourself to be persuaded.
Do the right thing! Pay it forward. Together, let’s make a positive difference.